Denmark Gay Bar Bans Straight Kissing
A gay bar in Copenhagen, Denmark, announced it would not allow its straight couples to kiss each other while inside the establishment, Homotropolis reported.
Jobbe Joller, the founder of the LGBT organization Homosocialt Fællesskab, told the newspaper that a bouncer from the Never Mind Bar in Copenhagen told a friend of his that she could not kiss her boyfriend.
"I told the bouncer that it had to be discrimination against heterosexuals to say that they were not allowed to kiss," Joller said.
"The bouncer replied that it was unacceptable to conduct that kind of behavior at a gay place and that Never Mind receives a lot of emails from its gay guests concerning the high number of straight guests that visit the bar," he continued. "I asked him if it was not the same as saying that black people are not allowed to kiss in Never Mind, but he disagreed and told me that the owner of Never Mind may decide who can kiss and who can’t kiss in the bar," Joller said.
Joller told the bouncer "what they had going on was sick, and that LGBT people across Denmark struggled for acceptance and equal rights for all, while Never Mind fought against it. The discussion evolved into a quarrel in which I told him at one point that he was crazy and the most arrogant fool I had ever met."
Mathilde Karisen Hansen, Joller’s friend who was told that she couldn’t lock lips with her boyfriend, said she was surprised and offended by the bar’s decision and initially thought the bouncer was kidding.
"When the doorman told me not to kiss with my boyfriend, I frankly thought that it was a joke. I, however, soon realized that this was not the case," she told Homotropolis. "Given that I was far from being the only girl who had kissed a guy in the bar that night, I felt really unfairly treated. I was obviously the only one who was told that my kissing may be offensive to the homosexual guests, which really surprised me a lot.
"I was frankly feeling a bit like a criminal, which is a really unpleasant feeling when the only thing I did was to kiss a guy that I love. So much for love," she added.
Joller then emailed the establishment about the incident. The bar’s owner Christian Carisen soon replied and said that "there are not many gay places left in Copenhagen, and that Never Mind is one of the places remaining and it is important to the gay community that Never Mind is kept as a gay place. So it is therefore not allowed for heterosexuals to kiss and so on in Never Mind".
Homotropolis asked Carisen to explain Never Mind’s views towards straight clients.
"It is quite clear that gay bars in Copenhagen attract many straight people and that in itself is also okay, but when you come with 3, 4, or 5 straight friends you no longer fit into a gay bar," Carisen told the newspaper.
"In Never Mind we don’t want heterosexual guests to dance, strip, kiss or behave inappropriately," he continued. "There are plenty of places in Copenhagen that are reserved for heterosexuals, but there are only a few gay bars left, and it is probably fair enough that gays and lesbians have bars where they can meet other homosexual people without having to consider whether it is a straight or gay person they are addressing."