After 60, Men Need to Accept the New Realities of Dating
My last column was all about how bitter a pill rejection can be. When rejection becomes a steady diet, then life can look pretty harsh.
As someone who is over 60 and back in the dating scene, I have had to face up to some harsh realities of late.
2013 began with a full plate of emotional turmoil as the result of our ongoing national fiscal crisis, the tragedy in Newtown, Conn., the ever-present threat of global warming and...oh, hell, you can fill in the rest. Compounding all that was my own personal situation: trying to find that special someone in New York City.
Here, where thousands of men go online to "order in," a lot of gay men are too busy looking for the next hook-up for a night of "sexual Olympics" than for commitment. If you’re one of them, stop for a moment and think ahead.
Trust me: Once you’re into your sixties, you eventually come to the realization that you just don’t have it like you used to in the old days, especially when you are competing with men half your age who are also in the dating or hook-up scenes.
In the unforgettable words of Barbra Streisand in "Funny Girl," at this time of life, "a girl has got to have a sense of humor." As I get older, it becomes necessary not only to approach life with a sense of humor but also with humility. It’s only when you’re old that you can see the truth in the old saw that the world is meant for the young.
So what got me into this mind set? It all began with someone I really liked and viewed as a potential boyfriend. Then, on the third date, he told me he was "not romantically attracted" to me, followed by, "You’re really amazing but, I want to be really good friends." I immediately asked the server for the check.
Then just earlier this week at a bar, an Irish bloke who was sitting next to me at the bar is telling me intimate details of himself and how he "loves New York Italian men," a group I happily belong to. Then he dropped that he was more attracted to the man sitting next to me.